Being left by someone you love tremendously is always hard. I think what's worst than the emotional pain you're put through, is the process of learning to live life without them. After years and years or even just months - you have become so accustomed to life with this person in it. I suppose you don't realize just how big of a jigsaw piece they are to the complete picture of you until they have packed up their things and swung it. Suddenly, you notice all the little things they did that had made your life so uplifting. Perhaps there was a certain day of the week you would always do something together and without that daily routine there to help you through your weeks you become suddenly so unaware of what to do next. Or maybe you notice all the things in your room that belong to them or were bought from them - how they complete the habitat you survive in every single day of your life. Maybe they were someone who...you could confide in and were always there to balance you when you haven't quite found your footing yet.
It's a difficult process learning to move on. The position that I am in now is where I have lost someone and was currently presented with the possibility of losing another. The person who had left me originally had been a huge part of my life, everything that she did or said reflected me in some sort of way - when she cried - I cried, when she laughed - I laughed - when she was hurt, I would hunt down whoever hurt her in order to make them pay. At the time I was in fear of losing her because I knew that she was such a big jigsaw piece to my puzzle and I didn't think I would cope. But you can make it through. Once most of the emotional pain has passed and you're through with the initial shock, you can start refreshing your life.
Firstly - though it sounds weird, I love to clean my room. I get rid of everything that I don't need, I clean everywhere I don't usually, I sort everything out into some sort of order and most importantly everything that reminded me of her that hurt me I would hide away or get rid of. This is a good way to start moving on, you can feel fresh and be in a fresh, clean in enviroment. Secondly, I work on the "letting go" process. This normally takes weeks to break out of but you need to really have the willpower to understand that it's not good for you. I would check tweets constantly, refresh facebook, ask people if she had said anything. You need to hold your head high, put your phone and laptop down and finally accept to yourself that they also need to move on and if they are wasting time with indirects it's only going to hurt you more. Thirdly, happiness. You need to step back, take a look at what you have created for yourself and realize that maybe you didn't need that person after all. You can be happy with or without them. You're strong and free to do whatever, whenever. This is when you can start really living life again. The best part of moving on and letting go.
Second of all, being presented with the situation that you're going to lose someone can be both panicking and scary. Suddenly, you start worrying about how you're going to live life without them, or about all the things you have planned in the future are going to waste or all the things you are going to say to try and heroically persuade them that staying with you would be the best option. Stop. Just breathe. I know your mind is probably all over the place and your heart is beating a dozen per second. But you need to stop and breathe and calm down, because panicking is not going to do you any good and it will not help the situation. The person who you think is leaving you - will have justified reasons to do so. You need to be a good person and sit quietly and listen to them. If you feel the reason aren't justified you can sit and reason with them politely. Tell them how you feel and how you thing things could progress from there on out. If not, just accept the truth with grace. I know your heart will sting and you'll feel like death but remember that you can be happy again. Also, it's okay to cry. They may seem like such a huge jigsaw piece but you can have a complete picture once more
So I know it may feel like the end of the world and everything has come crashing down. But remember they are probably feeling the same way. There was a reason things didn't work out and it's time to just accept them. Throw away the past and start refreshing your life. Your future has something different in store for you. All that I can promise is that the final picture on that jigsaw in the end will be just the way you want it and you wouldn't want to change anything that has happened to you in the past, all the people that left or came...because it lead to where you are in that day.
Refresh!
It's a difficult process learning to move on. The position that I am in now is where I have lost someone and was currently presented with the possibility of losing another. The person who had left me originally had been a huge part of my life, everything that she did or said reflected me in some sort of way - when she cried - I cried, when she laughed - I laughed - when she was hurt, I would hunt down whoever hurt her in order to make them pay. At the time I was in fear of losing her because I knew that she was such a big jigsaw piece to my puzzle and I didn't think I would cope. But you can make it through. Once most of the emotional pain has passed and you're through with the initial shock, you can start refreshing your life.
Firstly - though it sounds weird, I love to clean my room. I get rid of everything that I don't need, I clean everywhere I don't usually, I sort everything out into some sort of order and most importantly everything that reminded me of her that hurt me I would hide away or get rid of. This is a good way to start moving on, you can feel fresh and be in a fresh, clean in enviroment. Secondly, I work on the "letting go" process. This normally takes weeks to break out of but you need to really have the willpower to understand that it's not good for you. I would check tweets constantly, refresh facebook, ask people if she had said anything. You need to hold your head high, put your phone and laptop down and finally accept to yourself that they also need to move on and if they are wasting time with indirects it's only going to hurt you more. Thirdly, happiness. You need to step back, take a look at what you have created for yourself and realize that maybe you didn't need that person after all. You can be happy with or without them. You're strong and free to do whatever, whenever. This is when you can start really living life again. The best part of moving on and letting go.
Second of all, being presented with the situation that you're going to lose someone can be both panicking and scary. Suddenly, you start worrying about how you're going to live life without them, or about all the things you have planned in the future are going to waste or all the things you are going to say to try and heroically persuade them that staying with you would be the best option. Stop. Just breathe. I know your mind is probably all over the place and your heart is beating a dozen per second. But you need to stop and breathe and calm down, because panicking is not going to do you any good and it will not help the situation. The person who you think is leaving you - will have justified reasons to do so. You need to be a good person and sit quietly and listen to them. If you feel the reason aren't justified you can sit and reason with them politely. Tell them how you feel and how you thing things could progress from there on out. If not, just accept the truth with grace. I know your heart will sting and you'll feel like death but remember that you can be happy again. Also, it's okay to cry. They may seem like such a huge jigsaw piece but you can have a complete picture once more
So I know it may feel like the end of the world and everything has come crashing down. But remember they are probably feeling the same way. There was a reason things didn't work out and it's time to just accept them. Throw away the past and start refreshing your life. Your future has something different in store for you. All that I can promise is that the final picture on that jigsaw in the end will be just the way you want it and you wouldn't want to change anything that has happened to you in the past, all the people that left or came...because it lead to where you are in that day.
Refresh!