“Cowards are not the ones that suffer from love. Cowards are the ones who don't fall in love, because they're too afraid to suffer” Recently I had a friend that said to me that they didn't want to express their feelings because most people fear the result, but who doesn't get scared? Who doesn't fear the future? Who doesn't get scared over emotions? Who has ever died to ask a question but couldn't because you were scared you couldn't handle the answer?
Everybody gets scared of their own emotions as emotions has such an unknown, enigmatic way of hurting us or making us feel like we're reaching the moon. There is really no in between. People don't want to hurt. People especially do not want to BE hurt by somebody they really care about. Nobody wants to see their whole entire world reject them in the split second within a question being breathed. We get scared and there is no point denying that fact to ourselves because then we're preventing ever getting over it. “Stop being afraid over what might go wrong and start being positive about the things that could go right” I feel that we all en-cage ourselves up within our minds to avert any negative feelings that could be directed towards us. I understand this completely, nobody wants to feel physical pain over something so non-existence to the naked eye right? But by locking ourselves up insides our heads we're not really giving ourselves the chance, the opportunity is there to grasp but we're not letting our hearts really have a say in the matter. I know that sometimes our “hearts” meaning the emotions we possess that creates this desire for someone else isn't really going to take place outside our bodies and when you keep feelings trapped inside you'll feel the negativity and effect of the feelings getting stronger and you not doing anything about it.
If you've been hurt before in the past, this unrequited love story you've lived through, I can completely understand also why anyone would be scared. It's as if once your heart has been broken you feel that anyone else who ever claims to love you will do exactly the same. There is no real chain reaction between these romances or people, sometimes love just doesn't last forever and there is no real way we can escape the fact that people will inevitably and love and then leave you. “Some people are so afraid of being hurt, they pass up the opportunity to be happy” and it saddens me deeply that these innocent hearts are being left and then never used again because people fear history will repeat itself. I am not here to preach about the fact that it won't happen again because it probably will, but isn't all about the journey anyway? Not where you end up in the end? "You don't have to be so scared, You don't have to go tonight, I jut need to hold on tight, For one hell of a ride” I love these lyrics because it really emphasizes the fact that you don't have to be afraid to start liking someone, you don't have to hastily get out of that situation, just hold on tight because the chance to be happy is coming fast and it's going to be a great time all over.
Being in love in the past and moving on from that and learning to love someone else is hard and not everyone is comfortable with doing it. But you can't live life with the memories of being happy and being in love – you want to actually be out there living it for real. You can't be scared for the rest of your life, the monsters under your bed were never real – it's just a figment of our imagination prohibiting sleep. But if you look and you know and you understand there is nothing under your bed then you'll be okay, right? So just look at your past and look at yourself now...and know that you're okay and you're going to be okay and understand that finally you're going to be falling all over and it's going to be good. Why pass up the opportunity when hey, who knows – maybe this is the person you'll be falling for all over, every day, for the rest of your life.
Telling someone about your unrequited love is hard. Man – it sucks. Your heart beats a thousand times per second and you feel like you can't breathe and your whole body just burns up and you feel like hyperventilating whilst you await your reply and it is scary! But don't hesitate for a minute, don't think for one second that you won't do it because you're missing this whole new chance to be something amazing. Don't sit there and think “we were nothing, but damn we could have created something beautiful” LIVE that something beautiful. BE that something beautiful. We need to learn that rejection isn't bad, it's going to sting for a while but don't let it knock your confidence – emotions are always going to come and go and they take you on a crazy ride – just hold on tight and enjoy it. It's upsetting when people let the capability of something super awesome be wasted because of fear. Fear is nihility.
“In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take, the relationships we were afraid to have and the decisions we waited too long to make” I am personally learning from this right now. I am afraid to move on, honestly I am scared of waking up to see a day where my past isn't in it any more. I am afraid to start liking someone...”I thought I was afraid of love, but really it's what love does to you that scares me”...due to this whole expectancy and assumptions I have built up about relationships. I am not living and taking up these chances because I am scared. But I challenge myself along with you guys to finally let your heart have it's say in things, it's not always right and you're not always going to have great results – but at least YOU HAVE results rather than not having any at all. Pretty sure it's better to say you got an E in your exam rather than not showing up and trying altogether. So yeah, love is scary and feelings are scary and the whole idea of desiring someone really is a fearful concept. But it's one hell of a ride, one of the best you've ever have in life and I think it's time we start living at little. Loving a little. And just stop being pussies and tell them.
“Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing...is the very thing that will set you free”
Good luck! :)
Everybody gets scared of their own emotions as emotions has such an unknown, enigmatic way of hurting us or making us feel like we're reaching the moon. There is really no in between. People don't want to hurt. People especially do not want to BE hurt by somebody they really care about. Nobody wants to see their whole entire world reject them in the split second within a question being breathed. We get scared and there is no point denying that fact to ourselves because then we're preventing ever getting over it. “Stop being afraid over what might go wrong and start being positive about the things that could go right” I feel that we all en-cage ourselves up within our minds to avert any negative feelings that could be directed towards us. I understand this completely, nobody wants to feel physical pain over something so non-existence to the naked eye right? But by locking ourselves up insides our heads we're not really giving ourselves the chance, the opportunity is there to grasp but we're not letting our hearts really have a say in the matter. I know that sometimes our “hearts” meaning the emotions we possess that creates this desire for someone else isn't really going to take place outside our bodies and when you keep feelings trapped inside you'll feel the negativity and effect of the feelings getting stronger and you not doing anything about it.
If you've been hurt before in the past, this unrequited love story you've lived through, I can completely understand also why anyone would be scared. It's as if once your heart has been broken you feel that anyone else who ever claims to love you will do exactly the same. There is no real chain reaction between these romances or people, sometimes love just doesn't last forever and there is no real way we can escape the fact that people will inevitably and love and then leave you. “Some people are so afraid of being hurt, they pass up the opportunity to be happy” and it saddens me deeply that these innocent hearts are being left and then never used again because people fear history will repeat itself. I am not here to preach about the fact that it won't happen again because it probably will, but isn't all about the journey anyway? Not where you end up in the end? "You don't have to be so scared, You don't have to go tonight, I jut need to hold on tight, For one hell of a ride” I love these lyrics because it really emphasizes the fact that you don't have to be afraid to start liking someone, you don't have to hastily get out of that situation, just hold on tight because the chance to be happy is coming fast and it's going to be a great time all over.
Being in love in the past and moving on from that and learning to love someone else is hard and not everyone is comfortable with doing it. But you can't live life with the memories of being happy and being in love – you want to actually be out there living it for real. You can't be scared for the rest of your life, the monsters under your bed were never real – it's just a figment of our imagination prohibiting sleep. But if you look and you know and you understand there is nothing under your bed then you'll be okay, right? So just look at your past and look at yourself now...and know that you're okay and you're going to be okay and understand that finally you're going to be falling all over and it's going to be good. Why pass up the opportunity when hey, who knows – maybe this is the person you'll be falling for all over, every day, for the rest of your life.
Telling someone about your unrequited love is hard. Man – it sucks. Your heart beats a thousand times per second and you feel like you can't breathe and your whole body just burns up and you feel like hyperventilating whilst you await your reply and it is scary! But don't hesitate for a minute, don't think for one second that you won't do it because you're missing this whole new chance to be something amazing. Don't sit there and think “we were nothing, but damn we could have created something beautiful” LIVE that something beautiful. BE that something beautiful. We need to learn that rejection isn't bad, it's going to sting for a while but don't let it knock your confidence – emotions are always going to come and go and they take you on a crazy ride – just hold on tight and enjoy it. It's upsetting when people let the capability of something super awesome be wasted because of fear. Fear is nihility.
“In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take, the relationships we were afraid to have and the decisions we waited too long to make” I am personally learning from this right now. I am afraid to move on, honestly I am scared of waking up to see a day where my past isn't in it any more. I am afraid to start liking someone...”I thought I was afraid of love, but really it's what love does to you that scares me”...due to this whole expectancy and assumptions I have built up about relationships. I am not living and taking up these chances because I am scared. But I challenge myself along with you guys to finally let your heart have it's say in things, it's not always right and you're not always going to have great results – but at least YOU HAVE results rather than not having any at all. Pretty sure it's better to say you got an E in your exam rather than not showing up and trying altogether. So yeah, love is scary and feelings are scary and the whole idea of desiring someone really is a fearful concept. But it's one hell of a ride, one of the best you've ever have in life and I think it's time we start living at little. Loving a little. And just stop being pussies and tell them.
“Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing...is the very thing that will set you free”
Good luck! :)