Self-worth is a substitution for for self-esteem meaning 'confidence in ones own worth or abilities', in other terms, self-respect. I admit that it has always been difficult for me to gain self worth and be able to maintain it as I grow and learn. It's hard to be able to maintain self worth when people are constantly tearing it down; for no specific reason that you could ever come to understand. This is why the comments hurt so bad, because I have no self worth in order to know that I am more than what ever people can throw at me. "When you know your worth, no one can make you feel worthless." As soon as I had accepted that, everything that had bothered me so much before had already started to feel like a distant memory. You are not defined by what other people attempt to label you as.
"How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves." I feel this is also quite important to remember in order to maintain that self worth and not let negative people effect you. I find that most people who tear others down do it because they are either bored, jealous, attempting to fit in with the 'hierarchy of popularity' or simply because it's a reflection of who they are or how they feel. I know this is true because I sometimes snap at people if I am in a bad mood, I never mean to make them upset, it's just a reflection of the feelings I currently possessed. Even when people present these comments in such a confident and sharp manner, it's still not worth your time, energy or most importantly - your self worth.
"Self worth is so vital to your happiness, if you don't feel good about YOU, it's hard to feel good about anything else." Having no self worth also means it's hard to feel good about anything else, I started to feel negative about absolutely everything. Any activities, any events, even hanging around with my friends made me feel worse because I didn't believe I deserved these friendships and that I wasn't a vital part of a group. And maybe I'm not, but that doesn't mean I have to feel bad about myself. Right? When you start to understand these small things about yourself, life becomes so much more simple and simplicity is so damn beautiful. You can really start to enjoy life more when you start to love yourself.
"Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love." The idea of this blog came to me when I told my boyfriend I loved him and he replied "Save some love for yourself." Self worth is so much more than just being able to dismiss mean comments and enjoy your day, it's about being able to live life the way you want, being yourself. Not being able to be who you are because you have no self respect or the confidence to do so means you'll feel trapped inside. And there's nothing worse than being trapped and then hammered down by ridiculous people and ridiculous comments. So, being able to save some love for myself is important in having that confidence to live life to the fullest. And also being able to give my love to others wholly and completely, which is probably one of the most important things to me personally.
So, "Make sure you don't start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don't value you. Know your worth even if they don't." If you ever feel yourself being beaten down by negative comments or people, start realising that you need to build up some self worth because if you ever find yourself trying to prove your worth to those people or being stuck in their ideologies of perfection, then you've already forgotten your own value. Self worth is the key to happiness, contentness and a great way to keep your values and morals in check. Even if you disagree, being able to love yourself is a great way to always move forward and be able to enjoy anything life throws at you. It gives you confidence and independence. Just ensure you don't get to big headed! ;)
Go nuts guys!