"Shatter my reflection into pieces
cause I can't bare this any longer
cut myself on the shards, as I
catch the parts to make me stronger.
And it was never a dream of mine til I,
saw the way she looked in his eyes,
now I want to find,
amongst this broken mirror,
apart of me they'd consider"
No matter how hard we try, we're always going to compare ourselves to other people in life. Whether it be on the way they look or their personality, maybe even their lifestyle of friendship cliques. Even if for a moment we compare ourselves, or spend hours agonizing over how we aren't them - we all do it.
There is always something about yourself that you wish you could change, maybe a few personality traits or something about your looks that you have always hated. For me, I wish I was more girly - I wish I genuinely acted and dressed liked a girl. It's not that I haven't tried, I have, it's just not me. I always look at other girls and think "holy shit, why can't I be them?" the way they confidently float around in their floral dresses and the way their hair falls perfectly around their shoulders. My hair looks like I have been electrocuted, dragged through a few hedges, thrown out of a plane, landed in a tree and slept there for the night - atrocious I believe is the word. Yet no matter how many times I try and fail, I still cannot accept the fact that I am not like other girls. And this isn't a bad thing - this is just who I am. But sometimes the main problem is, other people are so perfect through our eyes that we can never be content with ourselves.
There is also another situation where you can wish you were someone else because someone you wish you could be with, or be friends with likes them instead of you. Now, these are the most childish feelings one could have, but we have to all admit that we have felt this way at least once in our life. It's childish because some of these persons looks or personality traits are something that you personal do not like or agree with, yet you still find yourself wishing that you had them. Just so that you can have the person that likes them. So that it is you making them happy rather than someone else. But I am here to tell you that this is ridiculous and you shouldn't feel this way.
If you want somebody to like you - you need to have them like you for you. What's the point in being around somone who doesn't know the real you? Who loves for someone you're pretending to be? You need to accept that maybe that person isn't for you and it just wasn't meant to be, or perhaps try and get them to like you for you. Because that is going to be love, not a love between them and someone you replicated.
Furthermore, you shouldn't ever want to be somebody else. I mean, it's okay to have idols and aim to be like them someday or they help inspire you - but wanting to completely be like someone else is not okay. You are beautiful. You should be happy within yourself about yourself. We all have our flaws, these people you want to be like - they have flaws also that they don't like. Who knows - they probably want to be you! You need to learn to love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love you. So next time you find yourself looking at someone else and wishing you were them, look away, find a mirror and then you've finally found the person you want to be.
And smile - you should be happy that you're you and not anyone else.
cause I can't bare this any longer
cut myself on the shards, as I
catch the parts to make me stronger.
And it was never a dream of mine til I,
saw the way she looked in his eyes,
now I want to find,
amongst this broken mirror,
apart of me they'd consider"
No matter how hard we try, we're always going to compare ourselves to other people in life. Whether it be on the way they look or their personality, maybe even their lifestyle of friendship cliques. Even if for a moment we compare ourselves, or spend hours agonizing over how we aren't them - we all do it.
There is always something about yourself that you wish you could change, maybe a few personality traits or something about your looks that you have always hated. For me, I wish I was more girly - I wish I genuinely acted and dressed liked a girl. It's not that I haven't tried, I have, it's just not me. I always look at other girls and think "holy shit, why can't I be them?" the way they confidently float around in their floral dresses and the way their hair falls perfectly around their shoulders. My hair looks like I have been electrocuted, dragged through a few hedges, thrown out of a plane, landed in a tree and slept there for the night - atrocious I believe is the word. Yet no matter how many times I try and fail, I still cannot accept the fact that I am not like other girls. And this isn't a bad thing - this is just who I am. But sometimes the main problem is, other people are so perfect through our eyes that we can never be content with ourselves.
There is also another situation where you can wish you were someone else because someone you wish you could be with, or be friends with likes them instead of you. Now, these are the most childish feelings one could have, but we have to all admit that we have felt this way at least once in our life. It's childish because some of these persons looks or personality traits are something that you personal do not like or agree with, yet you still find yourself wishing that you had them. Just so that you can have the person that likes them. So that it is you making them happy rather than someone else. But I am here to tell you that this is ridiculous and you shouldn't feel this way.
If you want somebody to like you - you need to have them like you for you. What's the point in being around somone who doesn't know the real you? Who loves for someone you're pretending to be? You need to accept that maybe that person isn't for you and it just wasn't meant to be, or perhaps try and get them to like you for you. Because that is going to be love, not a love between them and someone you replicated.
Furthermore, you shouldn't ever want to be somebody else. I mean, it's okay to have idols and aim to be like them someday or they help inspire you - but wanting to completely be like someone else is not okay. You are beautiful. You should be happy within yourself about yourself. We all have our flaws, these people you want to be like - they have flaws also that they don't like. Who knows - they probably want to be you! You need to learn to love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love you. So next time you find yourself looking at someone else and wishing you were them, look away, find a mirror and then you've finally found the person you want to be.
And smile - you should be happy that you're you and not anyone else.