"If you don't like it, fuck off!" Is a phrase I heard two 11 year old boys throw at another boy today during lunch break. But it wasn't the first thing I heard before I rushed over in attempts to stop the boys physically throwing water bottles and bags at the young boys head. The first thing I actually heard was, "Stop bullying me."
It's absolutely heartbreaking to hear that somebody is being bullied, and it's a thousand times worst to see it actually happen in front of you in what's supposed to be considered a safe and caring environment. I can completely relate to this child on a personal level because the exact same thing happened to me when I was even younger than him. I used to hide in teachers classrooms at lunch in fear of being cornered and verbally abused. I don't think it ever got to the extent where I was physically hurt apart from a nasty shove here and there, whereas this kid actually got smashed around the head with various objects. I did what any moral human being would do and rushed over to stop the bullies, took their names and ensured that the hurt child was alright. Despite being in floods of tears he told me it wasn't the first time. So not only am I completely heartbroken, I am ridiculously angry.
There are so many psychological reasons as to why people become bullies and I've wrote plenty of blogs trying to explain and understand these theories. But finally, I think I have just come to terms that some people are just absolute jerks, I seriously cannot understand why anyone would want to hurt someone else intentionally, without them ever having done anything wrong. I don't think my bullies realised just how massive the long-term effects are that their bullying gave me, I am still to this very day trying to figure just why I deserved it. I ponder hour after hour in some cases just retracing my steps from a young age trying to figure out just what I did or who I became that made me such a bad person that needed to be abused. After looking at this innocent kid and the amount of trauma this bullies had given him, it occurred to me that maybe I hadn't done anything. People seem to get some sick pleasure over watching someone suffer. Sure, I don't know this child, he could have done something bad. But I don't think through all his tears and innocence, as well as his age, that he could have done anything bad enough to deserve that. No one deserves that.
Schools are the most common place bullying occurs next to online. I become a lunchtime supervisor all of a month ago and I did not expect to see bullying occurring so early into my new job. Now, from experience, I know that my school personally does not handle bullying very well. my bullies were never confronted or punished, I was simply told to stop crying and to hide at lunchtimes. My parents were alerted but how can they help from work? When this happened to me however, it was about 4/5 years ago so I can only hope the school has improved. But I am going to do everything I can to make sure those kids know what they did was extremely unacceptable and they are going to be punished. If they do it again, the punishment is only going to be more severe. But mostly, with understanding it's not acceptable, they need to understand why and how through what they are saying and physically exerting on someone, what long term damage they can cause to peoples self esteem and emotionally stability. No bully is too young to learn about the dangers that come with hurting others. I will personally seek out as to whether this has been done.
To see a child crying because of bullying is like watching the whole world collapse and I haven't been able to get the image out of my head all day. I can only hope through this blog that people will be sure to look out for more events like this and be able to immediately report it. I hope that everyone reading this blog is too old to even consider being a bully. This event has triggered my need to eradicate bullying. It should not and will not be tolerated. Sometimes there is no psychology back story, sometimes you're just a dickhead.
It's absolutely heartbreaking to hear that somebody is being bullied, and it's a thousand times worst to see it actually happen in front of you in what's supposed to be considered a safe and caring environment. I can completely relate to this child on a personal level because the exact same thing happened to me when I was even younger than him. I used to hide in teachers classrooms at lunch in fear of being cornered and verbally abused. I don't think it ever got to the extent where I was physically hurt apart from a nasty shove here and there, whereas this kid actually got smashed around the head with various objects. I did what any moral human being would do and rushed over to stop the bullies, took their names and ensured that the hurt child was alright. Despite being in floods of tears he told me it wasn't the first time. So not only am I completely heartbroken, I am ridiculously angry.
There are so many psychological reasons as to why people become bullies and I've wrote plenty of blogs trying to explain and understand these theories. But finally, I think I have just come to terms that some people are just absolute jerks, I seriously cannot understand why anyone would want to hurt someone else intentionally, without them ever having done anything wrong. I don't think my bullies realised just how massive the long-term effects are that their bullying gave me, I am still to this very day trying to figure just why I deserved it. I ponder hour after hour in some cases just retracing my steps from a young age trying to figure out just what I did or who I became that made me such a bad person that needed to be abused. After looking at this innocent kid and the amount of trauma this bullies had given him, it occurred to me that maybe I hadn't done anything. People seem to get some sick pleasure over watching someone suffer. Sure, I don't know this child, he could have done something bad. But I don't think through all his tears and innocence, as well as his age, that he could have done anything bad enough to deserve that. No one deserves that.
Schools are the most common place bullying occurs next to online. I become a lunchtime supervisor all of a month ago and I did not expect to see bullying occurring so early into my new job. Now, from experience, I know that my school personally does not handle bullying very well. my bullies were never confronted or punished, I was simply told to stop crying and to hide at lunchtimes. My parents were alerted but how can they help from work? When this happened to me however, it was about 4/5 years ago so I can only hope the school has improved. But I am going to do everything I can to make sure those kids know what they did was extremely unacceptable and they are going to be punished. If they do it again, the punishment is only going to be more severe. But mostly, with understanding it's not acceptable, they need to understand why and how through what they are saying and physically exerting on someone, what long term damage they can cause to peoples self esteem and emotionally stability. No bully is too young to learn about the dangers that come with hurting others. I will personally seek out as to whether this has been done.
To see a child crying because of bullying is like watching the whole world collapse and I haven't been able to get the image out of my head all day. I can only hope through this blog that people will be sure to look out for more events like this and be able to immediately report it. I hope that everyone reading this blog is too old to even consider being a bully. This event has triggered my need to eradicate bullying. It should not and will not be tolerated. Sometimes there is no psychology back story, sometimes you're just a dickhead.