“We only accept the love we think we deserve” This is a widely known quote and pretty much everyone I know is aware of it. However, no matter how many know it or write it on their wrists or underneath their profile picture – I don't think anyone is actually applying it to their everyday life or their outlook on themselves. This is an honest quote about the majority of human beings and it was designed to make us believe the exact opposite.
It's true that most people at our age are extremely self-conscious, it's nothing to be ashamed of I am pretty sure most people are, including myself; so that means that we don't think we are as good as other people or we deserve the things they have. Today I listened to a good friend of mine talk about everything this “cool” guy had in his year and how he was the complete opposite of that – I couldn't help but think why he didn't accept that he could have all those things or achieve things that are just as great. Nothing is making us different from anyone else's achievements except our outlook on life. We believe that we'll never be able to achieve so we don't try – but if you don't even try how will you ever have the chance? The opportunity is there we just don't grab it; how will we ever know if we keep ourselves in the dark. We're obscuring chances to be great because the only thing we are confident about it that we suck. Which is not true.
This applies directly to the quote – we only accept the 'love' we think we deserve. Recently someone told me that they don't deserve anyone and I think a little piece of me died. I wanted to scream and cry and grab them forcefully and make them see that that isn't true, they deserve so much more than even know. I couldn't conjure up the words to help him see and I don't think I ever will and this deeply saddens me; it occurred to me that a lot of us probably feel this way. We don't deserve someone or anyone at all because we aren't good enough and it breaks my heart to see someone so amazing think this way. I hate it when people think “oh s/he's out of my league” because WHAT LEAGUE? What kind of imaginary wall have you built up around yourself that means that one person is incapable of loving you? The only reason they can't love you is because you have built that wall up around yourself so they can't get through – if that wall wasn't there then they could reach you directly. You're stopping greatness with your false insecurities and I want to help break it down.
I wasn't entirely sure as to what happens inside peoples head to make them believe they aren't good enough for someone, until I broke down my own walls and tried my best to figure it out. We are surrounded our whole lives around these “perfect” people who appear to have everything greater than us, like celebrities or popular people in school. Sometimes the way we are treated makes us downgrade ourselves, such as thinking we're not popular enough or not knowing who a certain celebrity is and of course rejection. But nobody can eradicate rejection, you'll be rejected a lot of times through life – I am only 16 and it's happened to me one too many times to be proud of. Don't let it knock down your confidence, it's just something that might happen. Celebrities only look that way because of social media trying to indoctrinate us. And popular kids in school – they weren't always that way and I guarantee they have their own insecurities also. I know it's a hard thing to break, these walls, I still look in the mirror and have a reflection that frowns back at me because my face isn't defined enough, my nose is too big, my eyes are a weird colour, my eyebrows are barely there and I don't think I'm beautiful. I don't think I deserve anyone.
I know you guys do that too. I know people only accept the love or the things they deserve, I know people who won't apply for that top university because they only go for the ones they think they will get into, rather than the ones they actually want. Why not aim for the top? Why not soar for the moon? You have the stars if you don't get there right? Why not...meet someone new and fall in love? And most of all, let them fall in love with you. Because if we're closing ourselves up all the time because we don't think we deserve a certain type of love then we are going to walk right past the one. My friend who thinks he doesn't deserve anyone, deserves more than anyone could ever give him. My friend who thinks he can't be as great as one of the popular kids, can be even greater than that. All they need to do is close their eyes and open their hearts to themselves. Try looking in the mirror and telling yourself your beautiful, try looking at that person you like and thinking...fuck leagues, they could be mine; because they could. Don't eradicate chances because you don't think you're worthy.
In the end, you may not reach that top university or be with that one person, not everything will always go to plan – however how could ever have a chance to go to plan if you don't try? I want everyone to stop thinking they aren't good enough because you are. It breaks me apart when someone thinks they aren't good enough, I want to scream at the top of my lungs because you're so worthy of something great. So please try and open up to yourself and open up to chances; stop degrading yourself and think positive, walk with pride in your step, flirt with passion and look at yourself in the mirror and smile.
Start accepting the love you actually deserve.
Keep smiling guys.
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